Victims, Martyrs & The Students Of Life

Victims:

These are the “poor me” people. Now how often do you hear “it would only happen to me”? We become victims because we lack a sense of self-value and being a victim draws much needed attention. Victims seek to be noticed, to be important, to be special. Victims seek revenge. Consider those repressed minorities that start revolutions. Freedom fighters begin as victims.

Victims often inherit the victim pattern from their victim parents; the down trodden, the “battlers” are also all victims. Victims are trapped in their own belief system that things will always be the way they are. They are stuck trying to obtain outside themselves what they lack within.

Martyrs:

Martyrs seek attention through gratitude. The martyr puts himself/herself down and will often succeed in creating a victim in those around them.

A classic example are those women who slave over a hot stove for hours and then when the meal is done, offer it to others.

”You folks go ahead and eat I will have something later.”

When you hear that, how bad do you feel?

Victims and martyrs search for attention because they lack self-value and they try to achieve it through either, or both, of these two avenues. We have all been there and some of us are still there. If you catch yourself falling into either or both of these, stop; it isn’t healthy. Your sense of self-value needs some help!

Students of Life:

Students of life have stopped looking at life as a battleground and see all situations as an opportunity to learn and to grow. There are no obstacles to the Student of Life. They know that they have chosen their life situation and that it is exactly as they need it to be and they know it can be changed, if the situation no longer serves them.

Some helpful hints:

1. Become aware when you play the victim and/or the martyr.

2. Attend to your self-worth issues.

3. Try look at life as a Student of Life as often as possible.

4. Count your blessings; stop looking at what you lack.

Peter.

Abundance And Lack Of Abundance

The law of attraction means that your vibration attracts a similar vibration (like really does attract like).

If you vibrate abundance, you will attract abundance; if you vibrate lack, that’s what you will get - more lack.

You may consciously seek abundance but be ruled by an unconscious belief that emanates lack, or vice versa.

I remember the story of the man who inherited his father’s great wealth and gave it all away because his conscious belief was that he didn’t deserve the wealth, as he had not earnt it. Within 12 months he had become a wealthy man again, as his unconscious belief was that of wealth abundance.

All of his life, he had only know the lifestyle of wealth so that was what dominated his vibration and in a short time over came his conscious belief of not deserving. He ended up in the same financial position he had in the first place.

Perhaps we can divide abundance into 3 parts:

1) Financial / material abundance

2) Creative / expressive abundance

3) Spiritual abundance

Some people have financial abundance but little or no creative or spiritual abundance. Have you noticed how many with money lack happiness? The reason being that they have focused on money / power / status and forgotten the other two aspects of abundance.

Some others have plenty of creative abundance, for example the painter van Gogh, yet he had neither financial nor spiritual abundance.

Others may have so much spiritual abundance that they struggle to live in life and certainly don’t find the all-important balance of life. They are in the cosmic clouds.

The key the attaining the three parts of abundance in balance is to heal your sense of self-value, for it is simply a lack of belief in deserving that keeps you in lack, with abundance out of your reach.

So look deeply into your history and heal the earlier wounded you. Once this is done, abundance on all its levels is yours, for it is what you truly are.

Blessings to all,

Peter

The Gift Of Giving, Receiving And Gratitude

Giving. Receiving. Gratitude.

These are three of the most wonderful gifts that we can hold and three gifts we may take for granted.

Do you truly possess them? 

Here are some thoughts that may help.

I recently learnt to see receiving from a level I had not thought of previously.

I have had the great blessing to be able to ask The Council Of 12 many questions over the past 18 years
(through Peter D, one of the only two channels of The Council Of 12 in the world) and at the end of my questions, they have always said “bless you teacher”.

While I have always thought that I had received these blessings with gratitude, the other day I found myself actually feeling their blessing descend upon me, almost like angel dust being sprinkled from above. It was the most wonderful uplifting feeling and I felt a depth of gratitude I had not previously felt In that moment.

I realised for the first time I was fully able to receive the great gift of The Council Of 12's blessing offered to me, and I truly felt blessed.

For it is easier to give than it is to receive. Most people give in order to be accepted and loved. Yet true giving can only occur if you have learnt to fully receive.

When you give, you are in control; when you receive, you are not in control. Because so many of us carry  deep wounds, we are reluctant to open ourselves to receiving. It exposes us to potential betrayal and further hurt.

Have a look at your ability to give and to receive, look deeply into how you express these two gifts. You will learn much if you are honest with yourself.

If you love to give, don’t deny another their gift of giving by not receiving.

After thinking I always had the concept down pat, I realised I have only just truly understood receiving. I now see giving differently as well also. They are, afterall, like brother and sister - you can’t have one without the other.

The key is give and receive with GRATITUDE. In order to understand the gift of gratitude, again, look deeply into how you receive. How you receive is governed by how much you feel you deserve to be given.

Heal your damaged sense of self-worth and the wonders of the universe will be yours.

Once you hold true gratitude, you won’t be to far away from embracing the wonderful gifts of giving and receiving.

And remember, the next time someone blesses you, pause and receive it deeply!

Happy travelling,

Peter